Prioritize Yourself By Saying Goodbye to Shoulds

As we navigate daily life, it’s easy to get caught up in the expectations and demands placed on us by our friends, our families, and even ourselves. We’re constantly bombarded with messages about what we should do, who we should be, and how we should live our lives. But amidst the noise of these “shoulds,” it’s essential to remember the importance of prioritizing ourselves and letting go of these external pressures.

Growing up feeling like we should be following a certain path can inhibit our ability to fully embrace our unique gifts and talents. The pressure to conform can lead to a sense of being trapped in a life that doesn’t align with our true passions and aspirations. We may sacrifice our own happiness and well-being in pursuit of external validation or approval, only to realize that the path we are on is not authentically ours. This internal conflict can manifest in various ways, including anxiety, stress, lack of confidence and low self-esteem.

Striving to meet the expectations of others can also prevent us from exploring our true potential and discovering what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. By adhering too strictly to what we think and believe we “should” do may cause us to miss out on opportunities for growth, creativity and self-discovery.

So how do we say goodbye to shoulds?

Prioritize yourself.

Prioriziting yourself means daring to challenge those ingrained “shoulds” and carving out a path that aligns with what you truly want. It’s about recognizing that your happiness and fulfillment are non-negotiable and are worthy of pursuing, regardless of external expectations.

Letting go of shoulds isn’t always easy. It requires courage, self-reflection, and a willingness to embrace vulnerability. It means saying no to things that don’t serve you and saying yes to yourself, even if it means stepping outside of your comfort zone.

One of the most liberating aspects of prioritizing yourself is the sense of empowerment that comes with reclaiming ownership of your life. When you stop living according to other people’s expectations and start honoring your own wants and needs, you take back control and become the author of your own story.


As you embark on this journey of self-prioritization, be prepared for resistance – both internal and external. Your inner critic may rear its head, whispering doubts and insecurities. Others may question your choices. But stay true to yourself. Trust that you know what’s best for you and that honoring your own needs is what is most important.


And … remember to celebrate your victories no matter how small. Each time you choose yourself over shoulds, you’re taking a powerful step towards aligning with your true desires and aspirations. Whether it’s setting boundaries, pursuing a passion project, or simply taking time for self-care, acknowledge and celebrate these moments of self-prioritization.


Prioritizing yourself by letting go of shoulds is not only an act of self-love but also a necessary step towards living  your best life. It’s about recognizing your inherent worth and taking responsibility for your own happiness. So, dare to rewrite the rules, dare to honor your own needs, and dare to live a life that is true to who you are!

If you are struggling with saying goodbye to the “shoulds” in your life and need help prioritizing yourself CLICK HERE and schedule your FREE Breakthrough Coaching Call with Lori today! 

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