Being Hard On Yourself

Being Hard On Yourself

You deserve good things!

I’m reminding you of this today because sometimes it can be hard to remember! We are often our own worst critics and much harder on ourselves than anyone else is. This is a habit we really should leave behind!

Becoming your own cheerleader is a skill worth practicing. Doubting your own self-worth, your abilities, or your importance can cause undue stress. When you are hard on yourself, it requires extra effort to overcome those emotions. Extending love to yourself is much more preferable!

Being hard on yourself is something that we all experience at one point or another. The pressure society puts on us is staggering and difficult to ignore. You aren’t alone in these feelings, but it is possible to break the cycle and start to love and appreciate yourself! 

Learning to be kind to yourself might not take place overnight, but it is possible and the benefits are well worth the work! Some ways you might begin to practice include:

• Utilizing positive self-talk! Whether you do this verbally, mentally, or write a list, reminding yourself about your positive traits and what you most like about yourself is proven to put you in a better mood! And when you’re busy focusing on all the good things about yourself, you have less time for dwelling on the negatives. 
• No comparisons! Comparison is the thief of joy. We all have our own unique gifts and talents, and to compare yours to someone else’s is an unrealistic measuring tool. People often show only the highlight reels of their lives and skip over the tough parts. This is important to remember when you find yourself in comparison mode. 
• Do what you love! Spending time doing things that light you up fosters positive feelings. Invite more joy into your life and make it a point to do one thing that you truly love to do daily.
• Talk to someone you trust! Seeking help, whether it be from a friend or a trained professional, is a great way to add some tools to your toolbox. Getting feedback on what you are going through and discovering other coping mechanisms is important. You deserve a listening ear and someone who makes you feel heard and supported.

The negative voice in your head isn’t something you were born with. You don’t have to keep doing things the way you’ve always done them! The good news is that you can teach yourself a better way! It can feel daunting to unpack the reasons why we are so hard on ourselves, so please don’t hesitate to reach out if you feel like you’d like some support along this journey. Having compassion for yourself is essential, and I’m here to remind you that you are worthy of and deserving of love!

Do you have any tips on silencing your inner critic? Share them in the comments below.

If you are really hard on yourself and want to learn more about how life coaching can help you, schedule your FREE Breakthrough Coaching Call with Lori HERE .