Self-love is not selfish, it is necessary.
So many women I talk to struggle with practicing self-love. This is something that you may not have been taught when you were younger and may now be wondering how in the world to go about loving yourself. The great news is that it is never too late to begin!
And…I am here to help you learn right now.
In this episode, you will learn:
- Why so many women struggle with self-love and how to begin building confidence and self-worth at any stage of life
- How practicing self-love helps you stop negative self-talk, trust your intuition, and rely less on outside approval
- 5 simple self-love practices you can start today to support your personal growth, emotional well-being, and daily self-care.
>>>CLICK HERE to watch the episode “ How To Stop Negative Self-Talk”
>>>Learn The First Essential Step To Make A Change In Your Life HERE
TRANSCRIPT: 5 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Love
So today, I want to talk with you all about self- love. And this is one of my favorite topics to talk about with women, so make sure that you set aside less than 10 minutes right now to listen in.
Today, we are going to cover:
- Why so many women struggle with self-love and how to begin building confidence and self-worth at any stage of life
- How practicing self-love helps you stop negative self-talk, trust your intuition, and rely less on outside approval
- 5 simple self-love practices you can start today to support your personal growth, emotional well-being, and daily self-care.
But first, I want to make sure and put this out there to all of the women listening: Self-love is not selfish… it is necessary.
So many women I talk to struggle with practicing self-love. This is something that you may not have been taught when you were younger, and you may be wondering how in the world to go about loving yourself. The great news is that it is never too late to begin! And I am here to help you learn right now.
I myself have struggled in the past with self-love, and when I learned how to begin practicing self-love, my relationship with myself became so much stronger. When you start loving yourself the same way, or even more than others who you hold near and dear to your heart, you begin to connect with yourself on a deeper level, which allows you to trust and believe in yourself more.
You may also tend to rely less on what others think of you or their opinions of you, and you may seek less approval from others, as you begin to rely more on listening to your own thoughts and opinions about yourself. You may also learn to appreciate who you are and draw your happiness from within rather than looking outside of yourself for someone or something to make you happy. So I want to share five simple ways to practice self-love that help me to this day, and that I personally live by.
First, set aside 5 minutes daily to sit quietly with your eyes closed and just breathe. If it helps to block out time on your calendar, I encourage you to do this. Think about it, say you are awake for roughly 14 hours a day, that is 840 minutes every single day that you have, and you only need to set aside 5 minutes of those 840 minutes. I challenge you to begin today!
Second, get clear on what truly brings you joy, then go do it! I encourage you to take time out and make a small list of things that bring you joy. A few of my favorite things are doing jigsaw puzzles, going on walks while listening to an audiobook, and watching documentaries. These are just a few things that fill me up and bring me joy. And the clearer you are on what brings you joy, and what nurtures your soul, the more you will continue to step into the practice of daily self-care, which really helps your overall well-being.
Third, listen to and honor your gut instincts. I know you have most likely heard the saying “go with your gut” or “listen to your gut” and I truly believe in this. I have raised my daughters to practice listening to that quiet voice inside of them, and I believe this voice is like an internal GPS system that is guiding each of us through life. It’s that sick feeling (or that fluttery feeling) you may get that is your gut instinct trying to guide you. Your gut instincts may be guiding you toward something positive or away from something negative; the key is to tune in and listen.
There are times I have been guided by my instincts when no one else around me understood or agreed with my actions, but I have learned to rely on them. So know that even when you may get a gut feeling about something, not everyone may be on the same page as you, and that is okay! Just remember to stay true to yourself.
Fourth, practice talking to yourself with kind words. This one was a tough one for me to learn. When I started noticing my negative self-talk, I could not believe what I was saying to myself. I have an episode where I teach you How To Stop Negative Self Talk. Once you begin to practice talking to yourself kindly, it does get easier. You can start by simply saying to yourself “great job” the next time you accomplish something (no matter how small the win). It could be as simple as celebrating yourself for getting out of bed on time without hitting the snooze button, or folding the laundry and then putting it away. It’s all about talking to yourself as you would to someone that you love and that you are proud of. You can practice right now by saying to yourself “I am really proud of you” or “You are so thoughtful”, and it’s in those small moments that can make a big difference over time.
The fifth way to practice self-love is to live in alignment with your true intention. This means taking a moment to ensure that the decisions you make each day support where you intend to be in your life, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. When you are unsure of the next step, ask yourself, “Will this action bring me closer to or further away from my true intention?” Choose the option that stays closely aligned with your true intention. For example, if you want to exercise more, consider finding an exercise class that fits your schedule, or keep it simple by finding an exercise video on YouTube you can do at home. I recommend taking an inventory of your life, tuning into what you truly want, and then beginning to align your actions with your intentions.
So, for example, if you want to focus on your personal growth, then you may want to consider making plans with other women who also want to focus on personal growth. Should you continue to make plans with girlfriends who have no desire to focus on their personal growth, then you’re moving out of alignment with your true intention. So it’s important to take an inventory of your life and tune into what you truly want, then begin aligning with your intentions.
Practicing self-love daily is one of the most important gifts that you can give to yourself. I encourage you to challenge yourself today and begin doing at least one of the practices that I’ve mentioned. Then I would love to hear from you either in the comments below or feel free to email me at lori@lorilandercoaching.com and let me know the positive impact that you experienced.
>>>CLICK HERE to watch the episode How To Stop Negative Self-Talk
>>>Learn The First Essential Step To Make A Change In Your Life HERE